When I first started living with my wife we had a rough time. We were fighting all the time over stupid little things and we couldn’t find our way.

I was unable to maintain any good habits, all my routines fell out of place, and I just couldn’t get myself to do the things I know make me feel better.

The only thing that helped us to stop going on that track was to take a full stop. It was only after a particularly big fight that we said: “no, this isn’t the relationship I want to have.” I started to meditate, and spent a lot of time in general away from her, even if in the same house. I started slowly getting back into my routines and so did she.

Letting me be myself removed the tug at my heart-strings for any small criticism and let me listen, understand, and only then react.